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thankfull
12-02-2010, 11:05 AM
On Thanksgiving Day I was at the home of a family from my church and one thing that I thought was interesting (and sometimes funny) was when we were watching the football game on TV and something inappropriate came up they were like "Honey change the channel," or they just changed the channel really quick! lol :policeman:

I don't see this very often, but I think it's a good thing. Since I'm single, I tend not to think about that being an issue and I definitely wouldn't mind a future husband doing this.

Do any other married couple do this and can you share any other examples of how you protect each others purity?

Deadmanwalking
12-02-2010, 11:08 AM
Dag, it's realllllllly difficult to stay pure in the US huh? And boy, i heard euro and south american TV is worse. :eek:

Shame is, i think I may be desensitized.

eve
12-02-2010, 11:21 AM
great topic, kia!

some people don't realize how they can help their spouses with this issue (a lot of time husbands have a glorified view of their wives as if their wives don't struggle, and wives have the view that husbands should be able to just "not look" & tackle this on their own).

let's build!

(by the way, if any husbands want a little insight on women's struggles for the purposes of helping their wives, IM me so that i can give you the link to a blog article i wrote on the issue. it isn't for everybody, believe me, but if you're finding that you really need to understand your wife in this way, let me know. and if you're a married guy who doesn't IM single women, i completely understand: just have one of the single guys on the board who i know serve as a middle man).

Ash
12-02-2010, 11:25 AM
I knew a married couple who did the same. If they were out-and-about, and the wife saw something, she would say something like, "Full moon at 11 o'clock honey.", and he wouldn't look in that direction. And vice versa.

Deadmanwalking
12-02-2010, 11:26 AM
@ Eve: Can you PM me that link sis? I plan on being a husband one day. i recall reading it a couple years back and found it really insightful. I'd like to keep it on lock stash for the future wife.

eternal
12-02-2010, 02:13 PM
Yeah we both do that. I know I have been more focused the last several years to guard my eyes from that sort of stuff, and I have made it known in my house, so I suppose some of her tendency may come from her desire to help not push that stuff on me, but also because she thinks its nasty and not glorifying to God. So with that as the ultimate premise, we generally turn the channel or turn our heads or something like that and not want to take in that sort of unexpected stuff.

Also, eve...I'd like to read your blog. It would be very helpful in aiding my understanding of the issue that I might be able to be better suited to help others. Thx.

RDD
12-02-2010, 02:41 PM
My parents do this quite often and it helps me to stay on myself, IMO, to not watch everythinggg that comes on TV!!

KPfaREAL
12-02-2010, 02:49 PM
My old youth pastor (when I was a youth) use to have his wife look through his magazines he would get in the mail (he had subscriptions to a lot of health magazine/body buiding magazines like "Men's Health", "Men's Fitness", etc.) and she would tear out anything in the magazine that was inappropriate before he read it. I thought that was awesome.

RDD
12-02-2010, 02:55 PM
My old youth pastor (when I was a youth) use to have his wife look through his magazines he would get in the mail (he had subscriptions to a lot of health magazine/body buiding magazines like "Men's Health", "Men's Fitness", etc.) and she would tear out anything in the magazine that was inappropriate before he read it. I thought that was awesome.

Wow, that's a wife right there!

thankfull
12-02-2010, 03:03 PM
great topic, kia!

some people don't realize how they can help their spouses with this issue (a lot of time husbands have a glorified view of their wives as if their wives don't struggle, and wives have the view that husbands should be able to just "not look" & tackle this on their own).

let's build!

(by the way, if any husbands want a little insight on women's struggles for the purposes of helping their wives, IM me so that i can give you the link to a blog article i wrote on the issue. it isn't for everybody, believe me, but if you're finding that you really need to understand your wife in this way, let me know. and if you're a married guy who doesn't IM single women, i completely understand: just have one of the single guys on the board who i know serve as a middle man).

There was a commercial that came on where a guy pulled up his shirt (which revealed a six pack) and the husband turned the channel real fast! lol I'm glad this man recognized his wife can stumble in that way too!

mzsoulll
12-02-2010, 03:20 PM
Wow, this is completely ALIEN to me. But that's very cool that married couples do this.

seal
12-02-2010, 04:34 PM
I do this.... Whenever Sunday Night football comes on and that Blonde comes on I either change the channel or look away. Samething with the Cheerleaders. Women are not all visually stimulated like that so my wife usually watches and then tells me when it's over. But she at times turns away as well depending how gross or nasty it is. This is the reason we don't want Rated R movies.

I use to have a serious promscious issue as a pagan and I don't entertain hollywood's images and etc. It has been a true blessing to my life in purity and holiness. Da Truth's track FourPlay is what taught me this and ever since then I have been able to resist Pornagraphy and Masturbation for over 6 years now. We must protect our lamps. I'm not being legalistic nor am I saying a person must do this but if you find yourself struggling in this area then these pratical things may help.

Being married doesn't solve the problem of lust, masturbation, and pornagraphy. Trust me. It gets worst at time and temptation can be a beast. I.E. after my wife has our third child I have to wait 6 weeks people....It's SERIOUS!!! Faith in Christ goes a lot further than Soteriological matters. You can bet on that....

Liberation is True Freedom.

Grace and Peace,
seal

Deadmanwalking
12-02-2010, 04:46 PM
I.E. after my wife has our third child I have to wait 6 weeks people....It's SERIOUS!!!

Grace and Peace,
seal

LOL this guy. :spinny:

thankfull
12-02-2010, 07:13 PM
Wow, this is completely ALIEN to me. But that's very cool that married couples do this.

It was alien to me as well until I started attending the church I am at now and hanging around some of the families. I think it really takes humility to not allow your husband/wife to look at certain images that most people would say there is nothing wrong with it.

@Seal...some women are more stimulated than others. I think we just appreciate the fine brother and then move on.

djnoyze
12-02-2010, 07:36 PM
I think my wife found out real quick not to tell me to look, cuz then I had to see what caught her eye. But I rely on my wife all the time to protect me and keep me from being hongry. That way when I'm out and about, i dont sven want anything cuz I'm just so full!